“Mindful, functional and beautiful solutions for experiences are my passion.” That’s Dana, the product designer and business owner, on her website’s homepage. A promise to deliver on her clients’ goals and objectives, Dana’s words could also describe what she was looking for as a mom—and also a surrogate—when she found her OB/GYN, Dr. Valary Gass. Her thoughts will be enlightening for anyone searching for the right provider.
Before you found Dr. Gass, things weren’t clicking with your first OB/GYN. What were you looking for in a provider?
I needed a provider who was more on my wavelength with how I wanted pregnancy and deliveries and things like that to go for me. I mean, if it was up to me right now, I’d probably do a home birth with Dr. Gass. I want the best of both worlds. I was really looking for a provider who would let me set my goals and intentions and respect them. That’s when I started asking around to people, reading the bios on websites and watching the videos, and I decided just to schedule an appointment with Dr. Gass and try her out. She was just this ray of sunshine.
Not sure we need to steal from “Casablanca,” but this sounds like it was the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
Yeah, Dr. Gass is my girl. She was great during that pregnancy because a number of things came up. She was just so confident in her approach and didn’t jump to conclusions or make assumptions. She always waited until we had all the evidence and would present it to me just that way. That first delivery with her was magical, everything I could have ever wanted. Now, Dr. Gass knows everything about me and my life. Literally a few weeks ago, when I delivered as a surrogate, I told her I loved her after I had the baby.
Okay, so what do you mean when you say the birth was “magical.”
I remember her coming in. She was very prompt, because my first baby was born in like two and a half hours, start to finish. I think I was in the hospital for maybe 18 minutes before my second, Brooks, was born, and she was there, ready to go. And I don't even think she was on that night, but she knew I was anxious about everything. And it was during covid. Dr. Gass was just so calm and chill about it all. She didn't make me do any sort of IVs or anything I didn't want—she knew my preferences—and advocated for me with the nurses, which was just incredible.
You mentioned “surrogate.”
I told Dr. Gass I wanted to be a surrogate shortly after Brooks was born. She said I’d be wonderful. My husband and I just love being parents; we love our kids so much. I’ve had easy pregnancies, pretty easy deliveries, good recoveries. Birth is the most empowering thing I've ever done in my life. So we decided we wanted to pay it forward to other couples who were struggling to become parents that wanted to have a biological baby. I ended up hemorrhaging after both of my surrogacy deliveries, but never once did I or my husband get scared, because Dr. Gass is just on it.
And you just delivered your second belly buddy last month?
I sure did. I had my first belly buddy, a boy, when Brooks was 18 months old; that was January of 2022. Last month I delivered a girl. And for the follow up question I know is coming, the answer depends on which me responds to the question. If you ask logical me, I’d say we are done with pregnancies. Hormonal me, however, would be willing to do a sibling journey for those wonderful people.
Is there anything else you’d like to share about your OB/GYN?
Okay, going back to when I had Brooks. I remember the nurses asking Dr. Gass if she needed the light, or did she want me to scoot to the end. And I remember her standing back so calm and just saying, “No one needs to be born with the spotlight. Baby's gonna come.” She was just the perfect amount of hands-off, because she knew that's what I wanted, but she was right there, ready when it was time to do all the important parts. I felt like I had a home birth but in a hospital setting, which was exactly what I wanted.
One final thought?
Maybe I can sum it up this way: Dr. Gass has this confidence about her that makes me feel comfortable, even when I'm gushing out 2,000 milliliters of blood after I have a baby. I'm like, ‘She's got me. We're good.’
She’s just that incredible.
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